Theory: "Cut Waste COLD Turkey"
The relationship is over: Unplug yourself from him, save your energy & go cold turkey!
UNPLUG: STOP being the typical female enabler, walk away and stay strong!
SAVE YOUR ENERGY: STOP wasting energy on him and refocus that energy on YOU!
- This allows for a REALITY CHECK!
- Time and space helps clear your mind
- You stop focusing on him and start focusing on the important person-YOU!
- You may realize how much you missed FREEDOM
- By NOT dragging it out and getting into more escalated fights, you allow the opportunity to later (LATER LATER) be able to give it a second fighting chance.
- You might realize you don't even know WHY you liked him in the first place
- But you know it can work so what do you do?!?
- Cliche but true: If you love/like him let him go. If he comes back then you'll know.
What excuses have you come up with?
- "He texted me first, I just responded a few words"
- "I just don't want him to think i'm a bad person"
- "But we were friends first"
- "He says he misses me"
- "But he is sick/lost his job/is homeless..."
- "His mom and I were close. I had to wish her a happy b-day"
- "I'm not talking to him, just checking his Facebook"
- "I only hit him up when i'm drunk sometimes"
- "I wanted to make sure he is okay"
- "I needed to give him back his stuff" (Mail it or have a garage sale!)
- "I just want to see what he has to say"
Disclaimer: YES, you MIGHT be able to be friends or even lovers later but today, tomorrow, a week from now, or a month from now is NOT the "later" i'm talking about. Give yourself that honest time to get refocused on what is truly important to you first!!
CHALLENGE: GO COLD TURKEY
As women, we are raised to be "polite". So we often say "We ended on good terms, so I don't want to be rude and ignore him."
ReplyDeleteBut you need to do it for YOU! At the end of the day, you're not with him anymore and it's not your responsibility to "check on him and make sure he's okay" ... Let his mama, sister, grandma or tia do that.
When your pain goes away and you're strong on your own... And the thought of him doesn't make your stomach sink (because of nerves or sadness)... Then maybe you're ready for a new start (with him or a new Mr. Right). =)
People make better decision when they are grounded, have a clear mind and have space/time to reanalyze the situation ---THAT'S WHAT GOING COLD TURKEY IS ALL ABOUT!
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we can make Thanksgiving Day every day! lol
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